我们尊敬的性专栏作家凡妮莎·马林总是愿意钻研我们要求她研究的任何话题。我们的意思是钻研。以下是我们2018年的最爱。

怎么吃**

The anus has nerve endings and enjoys being stimulated. Because rimming is still seen as pretty taboo, there’s also an illicit thrill to giving and receiving a rimjob. And for the record, people of any gender or sexual orientation can enjoy rimming.

我们真的是一开始就轰轰烈烈。

如何让男人在***中更持久

Try to build some teasing into your masturbation practice. Think of arousal on a 1-10 scale, with 1 being barely turned on and 10 being orga**. Get yourself to a 6, then back down to a 3, then back up to a 7, then down to a 5, then back to a 6, then down to a 2, then up to an 8, and so on.

数学！

如何应对**尺寸焦虑

If you sleep with women, the size of your penis isn’t as important as you think it is because penetration isn’t the most pleasurable sexual activity for women. The majority of nerve endings in a woman’s genitals are focused in the clitoris. There are so few nerve endings in the vaginal c**** that there isn’t even a scientific tally of them.

科学！

如何懒散地吹箫

… ask your partner to masturbate for you. The further they get themselves along their path to orga**, the less work you have to do. Most people don’t masturbate in front of each other, so the novelty of it can also work in your favor. You get to have an incredibly exciting and erotic experience rather than asking your partner, “Can you hurry things along?”

总的来说，好提示：不要说最后一部分。

如何增加你的**

Most of us take our sex drives for granted, expecting that they should just function on their own. That may work at certain points of our lives or relati***hips, but it’s not a successful long-term strategy. Your sex drive needs your ongoing support in order to flourish.

当然，这是另一个维护任务，但这一个应该是相对有趣的。

找出你的**是反应性的还是自发性的

Most people think that sex drives should happen spontaneously. As a result, people with resp***ive sex drives end up getting unfairly labeled as “low desire” or even “no desire.” But a lack of spontaneous desire is not the same as having a low libido; it’s just a lack of spontaneous sex drive! Resp***ive sex drive types aren’t low desire; they just have different needs in order to feel desire.

这里有一个重要的区别，可能会挽救一段感情。